Dating someone who is moving away? I'm a 26f and he's 25m, we've been dating for a little over a month now. There are absolutely no mixed signals, I'm very happy with where we are and beyond relieved that he's very communicative and doesn't play any Jedi mind games. Unfortunately, he will be moving away at the end of the year for work I was overwhelmed with the news and I just saw a bunch of potential bf, and future date plans fly out the window. We talked about if we should continue seeing each other, because he's afraid of hurting me badly when he has to leave. We reached the decision to keep seeing each other in the meantime Would you date someone knowing it was going to end?
Is it better to have liked not love here yet folks , than not at all? I feel for you. If you guys can stay friends.
He said he's not one for LDR either so it's unlikely it'll happen. I'm in this situation right now, although we're a little bit older 30s and have a little bit more time together, both of which I think matter some. I know it's going to hurt more later, but I cannot imagine not taking advantage to see him at least a few more times 2. Should I confess my love?
And perhaps most importantly, I wanted to spend your final night here with you. What else in life do we really want besides to love, be loved and know ourselves? If it proves to complicated and messy, yes, you should take it as a sign of good things to come. We have talked some about what happens when he moves. In 25 years, only one other girl has met everyone, and I dated her for two years and I considered marrying her. Even at the very best of times, a LDR tends to split your attention between the life-where-you-are and the life-you-have-when-with-your-SO, and that's not conducive to living fully and in-the-moment, and partaking of all the joys and possibilities that are open to you in your daily life -- which for you, will now entail a brand new adventure. I've been on a dating hiatus for a year while doing the aforementioned work on myself.
Do you regret it? Has anyone made a long distance relationship work? I know I haven't before, but is there any hope? Should I tell him I want to stay in touch after he moves? How would I bring this up? I kind of want to visit him in a few months Sorry for long post Help!
Hi, I know exactly how it feels to love someone only to watch them slip away from you. I think you should start accepting the fact that you are going to let this relationship go. However, if he truly loves you, he should be the one to make the relationship work even in long distance. Don't be the one making effort to make thing work, allow him do that because you might get even more hurt in the future when you do this.
Originally posted by fml View Post. Even if you are thinking about getting involved in one, that quote will save you a lot of time, which would have been wasted with doubts and uncertainties.
The problem is that the high number of failed long distance relationships seems to eclipse the growing number of long distance bonds that succeed. While I count each one as a chapter in my unfinished book, your pages are so unlike the others.
For the first time, I found someone who I was just drawn to without explanation—you. Maybe you were a crush, a friend, a potential love, or just an acquaintance passing by.
So, this is me swallowing all of my pride and admitting something to you: Still, here I am writing down my most transparent thoughts in hopes that I might leave less unsaid. Because you stand out to me. I find it difficult to walk away and pretend like what I felt never existed.
There is a part of me that hopes you feel the same way. For me, I think there might be something else that is more difficult: In real life, I think we fear saying the wrong thing at the wrong time.
Here is the unscripted version of the things I should have said:. It completely sucks that your moving. From a selfish standpoint, I hate it. Have you ever sat down and thought about all of the things that you want in a person? Unfortunately for me, you meet so many of the standards I have set for myself. You possess so many qualities that any girl would be crazy about. I hope she appreciates you and loves the shit out of you.
Even so, I need you to know all of the things I love about you. You were always so sweet to me.